The Most Important Thing You Can Do To Overcome Fear

I’m taking a writing course called Tribe Writers. I went through much of it last summer, but school started and I didn’t finish. Now that summer has rolled around again, I am coming back to it.

The first post I wrote for this site was on fear. At the time, I was somewhat afraid of beginning a new blog, but I was determined to begin.

It’s a scary thing to put yourself out there. There will be people who don’t like my writing and won’t hesitate to say so.

But what I have learned is that it’s okay for people not to like what I write. I would rather write something and have someone say, “You suck,” or “That’s stupid,” than to have allowed fear to keep me from taking action.

Taking action is the first step to overcoming fear.

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I’ve overcome the fear of putting myself out there. Does that mean I’m not afraid anymore? Uhhh….no.

In today’s assignment we were asked about something that we are afraid of writing. This is why I’m glad to go through the course a second time because I don’t remember this question. Most likely I was too wrapped up in getting started to even worry about what I was afraid to write.

So here’s where I’m going to really put myself out there. I’m going to post the 15 minute free write that I did with no edits other than a couple of spelling errors.

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“What’s something I’m afraid of writing?”scared baby

That’s a tough question.

The timer is on and I have a piece of paper over my monitor. I’ve never written like this before. What I’m afraid of writing is my truest feelings. I have written short stories where I can weave truth into fiction. That way I can express my feelings under the guise of fiction.

What am I afraid of? Conflict possibly. People dissing me for what I say. I’m not good at debate. I find it hard to defend what I say or believe in.

I’m afraid because I don’t have a degree in anything or expertise in any area, that what I say will be discounted. I’m afraid of being too open, but then I’m afraid of not being open enough.

I want to share my past mistakes with others. Not for the reason that it makes for a juicy story, but to help others who may be heading down that same road. I want to be the person who’s standing on the side of that road waving their arms screaming, “This road is dangerous–there’s a bridge out ahead–go a better way!”

But yet, I’m still afraid. My life isn’t perfect. I’m not one of those people being interviewed on Christian radio whose testimony goes something like, “My life was horrible and now that I’ve found God my marriage is wonderful, we have money, I’m cured of ____,” etc.

My life isn’t perfect and I have to live with the consequences of my past actions from my youth.

This is what I’m afraid to write.

I want to be real. I want people to see that I’m real. I want people to see that God works in the lives of average people and that people’s voices can be heard even when they aren’t PhDs or great philosophers.

Realness. Rawness. That’s what I’m afraid to write about.

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What do you need to do to overcome fear?

Take action.

Failure is a possibility. But so is success.

Take action again.

Failure is a possibility. But so is success.

Take more action.

“If you’re not failing every now and again, it’s a sign you’re not doing anything very innovative.” ~Woody Allen

What are you afraid of trying?

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” ~2 Timothy 1:7

6 Responses to The Most Important Thing You Can Do To Overcome Fear

  1. Jyl says:

    Ohhhhh, yeah. I’m right there beside you. It’s like this wall of “YOU CAN”T POST THAT” keeps rearing up. My life is more like “I said I was a Christian but I did all these terrible things anyway and brought shame to the name of Christ and now I feel so guilty I can hardly move” But I know I’m not the only one who struggles with these things so I KNOW it would help someone. Not quite ready to do it yet, though.

    • yolandadeloach says:

      Thank you for commenting and sharing, Jyl. Connecting with others who share our life struggles is helpful. Keep at it!

  2. Fear is one of the greatest writing blocks for writers, and you are correct that the only response is action. Failures will occur, but you have to sit down and write again and again. Thank you Yolanda.

    • yolandadeloach says:

      Darin, I often fall short in my writing goals, but I figure as long as I’m moving forward and accomplishing something that’s better than nothing. Thanks for commenting.

  3. debsrandomwritings says:

    While reading your post and the answer to your assignment question, I found myself nodding my head a lot. It was nice to read things that I could have written myself, but that were actually written by someone else.

    This may sound crazy, but deep down I am also afraid of success. So how does that work? I am afraid of failure and success and it causes many conflicts in my head.

    Being too open and not being open enough and not being good enough are all things that I am afraid of too. But it’s nice to know that I and the many others like me are not alone!

    • yolandadeloach says:

      Thank you, Deb, for sharing that. It’s crazy how that fear of success and failure keep us in conflict. That’s why it’s so easy for people to keep the status quo–it’s comfortable–no risk involved. I’m glad I’m not alone. 🙂

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