Some days we’re tired and worn out. We’re anxious and feel like we’re getting no where.
Life isn’t turning out how we expected.
Life isn’t the picture we carry in our mind.
The disappointment can be overwhelming.
We’re all trying to live up to the expectations of how we think our lives should look as we wade through the muck of everyday life. We want our lives to be orderly and predictable.
Sometimes we have smooth sailing seasons, but many times life is messy and unpredictable.
The expectations we place on ourselves can be our own or fed by family, church, facebook–whatever social circle you find yourself in. We want to live up to those expectations because we’re afraid of being judged, talked about and looked down upon.
We believe life will unfold a certain way if we live right.
We see the highlights of the lives of others–their polished manners at church, the facebook smiles at Disney World, the updates of trophies won and achievements accomplished.
It’s a great picture.
But it’s not the whole picture. It’s just a moment. A chosen moment to present to the world. Someone else’s moment that we use to measure our own lives.
It’s hard to look at the polished side of others when we’re feeling exhausted, numb, anxious, hurt and worn thin. We think we’re failing. It’s easy to want to throw in the towel and say, “Why bother?”
My friend, I’m here to tell you that you weren’t put on this earth to have a perfect life. You will not have the perfect family. You will not always have perfect health.
The perfect life is a lie. It is impossible.
It’s impossible because we are broken beings. All of us. And it’s difficult to acknowledge our own brokenness.
We want life to be a certain way. We have a picture in our mind of how we think it should look.
But life doesn’t always hand us what we want. It doesn’t even hand us what we feel we deserve.
That’s a tough one isn’t it? When we do right we feel we deserve something in return.
If we live a healthy lifestyle–we deserve a healthy body.
If we work hard–we deserve to be promoted and not laid off.
If we love someone–we feel we deserve their love in return.
If we put our heart and soul into raising our kids–they will never disappoint, hurt us or make poor choices.
If you cling to what you feel you deserve and hang on to that picture you will grow bitter. As long as that picture stays in your mind you will never have peace.
Let go of the picture, my friend. Let go of the notion that life needs to be a certain way. Let go of the need to measure up.
Peace can found when you embrace what is. Embrace all situations in life as a way to grow and learn. I know you’re tired and worn at times. But by accepting what is you’ll release a lot yuck that’s weighing you down.
I hope you make peace with life today.