“I Like My Legs,” She Said. Can We Say the Same?

“I like my legs,” my 10 year old daughter confidently proclaimed while we were on a walk. “They’re smoother and softer than everyone else’s.”legs

Now I’m not sure how she came to the conclusion that her legs rank highest in the smoothest and softest category.

But it really doesn’t matter.

She believes them to be so. And she LIKES them.

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Roaming through the maze of clothing racks, I scan over the colors and styles. My eyes pause at something that is ‘me’. I envision myself wearing the outfit and totally rocking it.

Liking the scene that plays in my mind, I pluck the garment off the rack and head to the changing room.

This will look great on me.

But the me I imagined is not who is looking back in the mirror. The woman in the mirror is middle aged. Of course, the lighting used in changing rooms doesn’t make me look my best.

In fact, it highlights the worst.

These people don’t know a thing about marketing. You wanna sell clothes to women? Make them look their best. Soft, alluring lighting. That’s what’s needed.

Candlelight.

Yeah.

The clothes will be flying off the racks.

So this middle aged woman is staring back at me. In my mind, while standing at the rack, I had envisioned a younger version of myself. That younger version who dances through fields doing pirouettes with a billowing silk scarf trailing behind me. My younger version can effortlessly do back handsprings and run without tiring.

This, of course, is in my imagination. I’ve never danced through a field with a flowing, silk scarf. I think they only do that in the movies.

Today, I’m trying on shorts. I haven’t worn shorts in years because of a few spider veins. Like the world hasn’t seen spider veins. But because my skin isn’t flawless, I haven’t worn shorts.

I stare at my reflection. Yes, the legs belong to a middle aged woman.

But I am a middle-aged woman. No one stays young forever.

I recall my daughter’s statement—“I like my legs.”

“I LIKE my legs.”

Can I say the same? They’re not the smoothest or the softest. They’re not the tannest or the longest. But they are awesome.

Why?

Because I’ve decided to believe them to be so.

I buy the shorts.

Next time my daughter says she likes her legs, I’ll say, “Awesome! I like mine, too!”

4 Responses to “I Like My Legs,” She Said. Can We Say the Same?

  1. debsrandomwritings says:

    I probably love most of me except my legs! My small chest, my large-ish feet, my flat-ish tum, my womanly bum – women are meant to have bums! – and my spaghetti-like arms, I really do like, but my legs I have never liked.

    I have always opted for skirts over shorts, I’ll wear a short skirt – okay maybe not now, but when I was younger – but steer clear of shorts. I don’t fret about my legs I just ignore them, they have a job to do – getting me around – but as far as I am concerned they will never win awards….But you know I am actually fine with that.

    It is great that your daughter has the confidence to say that she likes her legs and that they are softer and smoother than everyone elses. I hope she keeps that body confidence.

    It is about time they changed the lighting in changing rooms. Most of us know that we aren’t perfect, but we don’t need the fact highlighted when out shopping for clothes!

  2. Yolanda,

    How wonderful that your daughter loves her legs and how even more wonderful that you’ve decided to love your legs as well!

    It is such a hard task to look at ourselves, regardless of our age, and appreciate our own beauty for what it is (without comparing our parts to some image of what we may deem as “perfect” or “flawless”). But once you do and you’re able to see and appreciate your wonderful legs that take you where you want to go, allow you to have fun, make you tall and strong, you may suddenly see that the “external” look of them is but one small component of your legs and that they are truly beautiful whether or not they happen to have a few spider veins or not.

    Thank you for sharing your inspiring story of the joy one can experience with acceptance of who we are as we are 🙂

    • yolandadeloach says:

      Thank you, Dorlee, for commenting! There is so much more to our bodies than its external appearance.

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